The Box of Anger
If someone tells you that you can’t do something, and that makes you angry, you might feel boxed in. What if you threw your anger at the box instead of at the other person? Boom! The box is gone. Now you are free to choose to do the activity or not. And you can do it without the blindness that anger causes. Getting angry at the other person or yourself is not helpful. Nor is repressing anger helpful. So, release your anger at the box because it is a limitation. Then you have freedom. Freedom from the box of anger limitation.
The more we squeeze and contract anger, the more violent it becomes. What if it can’t be understood, but it can be felt? Let’s not call it anger anymore. We can call it anger when anger doesn’t have any meaning. When it no longer has a charge. What if there is always going to be a battle? Step back and watch the battle.
The Trap of Approval
Approval can’t be received. It’s a booby trap of the ego. You can’t hear or see it. You are just stuck in the endless seeking of approval. Accusations from other people is their ego having made them the victim. They need someone to blame. So, they blame you. But their finger-pointing has nothing to do with you. The judgement of blame creates its own victim-hood. Believe in me, it says, and I will control you. Life will happen to you and not for you. Let go of the judgment of blame.
The bottom line. I stand with God no matter what. Say that three times. I stand with God no matter what.
Freedom is free.
Be an Explorer vs. a Fixer
Your presence heals everything. As soon as you are trying to fix it, you are not present. You can’t be present and fixing something at the same time. All the extra stuff is just optional baggage. Our minds will still try to control us. Be more present and notice your breath.
Give your awareness to the things that you don’t want to look at—the things that you have suppressed and hidden deep inside. Our awareness heals when we don’t judge it. Not judging allows us to explore. This is about exploring our awareness. The only thing challenging about change is trying to control it. Instead, shine your unconditional love on your new way of being an explorer. Enjoy being an explorer of self-worth. And let go of the comfort of being not good enough.
Ask the Universe to show you surrender. Universe show me surrender. Show me what surrender looks like. Not what I think it is. But we resist surrender. Resistance shows up not just to control where we are going. It also shows up to distract us from doing anything. The common ways of resistance are to do something else. I need to finish this chapter in my book. But I think I’ll water my plants first. Surrender is to just be here. Would I be willing to surrender even more to this journey? Not to fix me, but to explore me? What if I just stayed here and explored this chapter?
Every time you find more of yourself, the problems become smaller. When you make the problems big, you are really making yourself small. I’m looking for what I think I’m looking for. Maybe it will never be. So, what if God has a much better idea. So, here’s what I think is happening and let’s see …
If there’s nothing to do, then let’s do nothing together. You can surrender and still create, live, and serve. It just gets better. You are always invited to more. Let life show us how to live, love, and serve. Let’s leave room for surprise.
Feel the Feelings
We are all empaths. Feel what you are feeling and quit blaming it on the people around you. Oops! We just let ourselves off the empath hook.
Is it possible to not feel love? Not be love? How can we not be love? It is the idea about what we think love should be that causes the disconnect. We think: The Universe has to let you down. It has to disappoint you. But love is here the entire time. Is it bringing up anything? What am I here to look at? What am I not willing to look at? The Universe isn’t going to open the door to more than you can handle. Would I be willing to let the rest of this—book, life—be miserable? How much can I write about it? Is this something that I can feel and let go of?
If you are aware of something, you are that thing. I don’t want to be broke. You are it. It’s time to be with it. The challenging part of information is trying to control it. Don’t label it pain. When you really feel it, you will not be able to describe it.
Let’s call pain information. Feel it and explore it. Be with it in a new way. Would you be willing to give up to this? You never know what you are saying yes to. Are you willing to give up the fight? I don’t know How. This is the resistance. Yes! I give up! If you are trying to control what you let in, you are not having it. The pain was always love. Freedom lies in the surrender to feeling and the choice to explore it.
Everything is so complex and simple at the same time.
Techniques for Freedom
1. Say, I stand with God no matter what. Say this three times.
2. Let go of self-importance, limiting beliefs, and judgements.
3. As you are with your feelings, relax where you can. If there is a part of your body that doesn’t want to relax. Take a deep breath and go around that part.My Free Joy guide
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